Communication is key when it comes to any relationship, whether it’s with a job, partner, family, or friendships. I’ve had many situations when there was an error in how we communicated. First off, people only see things from their level of perception. If one has values that align opposite of yours, then obviously they aren’t going to agree with the things that you do. It may also be important for the parties to utilize communication cues to learn to listen and hear what the other party is saying.
I’ve noticed that in my personal relationships, I often find it difficult to listen and respond appropriately to what appears to be a negative exchange… TO ME. When doing so, we lose the fact that some of what is being said ARE compliments and constructive criticism that I could actually learn from. Basically, I missed the message in the conversation. I’m sure that I’m not the only one here that struggles with this. I often reflect after the conversation and tell myself that I basically listened for negative trigger words. I made the conversation go left because I went blind to the message.
Do yourself a favor and, during your next conversation…
Watch your tone… Listen to understand… practice active listening… and seek clarification in a respectful manner when needed!
Love ya much!